“Marriage is not a love affair; its an ordeal. If you think of it as that, you will be able to go through with it. The ordeal consists specifically in sacrificing ego to the relationship.”
— Joseph Campbell
What comes first: the wedding and then the relationship training…or the reverse? Couple who participate in pre-marital training have a 75% higher success rate as compared to couples who attempt to work our their issues as they surface. Knowing what the road ahead looks like allows for planning and adjusting. Couples are often consumed by the glow of marriage or new relationship and fail to realize that every marriage or relationship has “issues”. Most of these are predictable and for the most part inevitable. Knowing what these issues are in advance will allow you and your partner to consciously navigate your relationship and its challenges.
Engaged or Newlywed Couples have the blessing of beginning a relationship journey with skills and tools. No one taught us how to have successful relationships in school. We didn’t receive trouble shooting guides or instruction manuals for ourselves or our partners; we need to learn to be curious as we traverse the new terrain. New couples need to learn, master, and use these skills as a way of life before starting the long relationship journey.
We specialize in assisting and training you in how to be masterful with relationship skills. Acquiring and mastering a wide array of relationship skills and tools will increase your ability to communicate, strengthen intimacy, improve sex, clear the road towards financial freedom, and decrease conflicts. The Allen Method The Allen Method involves a gentle probing and enquiry into the unconscious to assist our clients in discovering their relationship blind spots. We deliver an in-depth psychological perspective that blends 30 years of ontological work, four degrees in psychology, creating and facilitating hundreds of classes for singles and couples, an advanced degree of spiritual consciousness, years of coaching and leadership training, and a tremendous amount of love and compassion.
We use Myers Briggs to assist our clients in discovering their unconscious dating blind spots. What you don’t know you don’t know about yourself and relationships is the focus for the Relationship Training Program (RTP). The program is offered frequently in Los Angeles, and currently consists of small groups of committed men and women who are committed to exploring and discovering their personal and relationship blind spots with the use of the Myers Briggs Typology Indicator (MBTI).
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How would you describe your relationship?
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Vitalized Couples have satisfying relationship and have proficiency in communicating and resolving conflict. The goal for these couples is to embrace what works, remain relationship vigilant, and seek opportunities for continued growth and development.
Harmonious Couples enjoy high levels of satisfaction in most areas in life. The goal for these couples is to get mastery and proficiency in a variety of areas. Possible areas of focus are communication skills, goal setting, intimacy building, financial management, and sexual expression.
Conventional Couples are highly committed, but lack proficiency in communication and conflict resolution. The goal of these couples is to embrace and build on what is working in the relationship. Develop a relationship plan and vision for the relationship. Seek relationship help in improving communication and conflict resolution skills. Schedule quarterly or semi-annual relationship tune-up retreats each year.
Conflicted Couples have low levels of satisfaction and struggle in many areas in the relationship. The goal for these couples is to find assistance in discovering areas of conflict, learn and acquire effective communications skills, and design a workable relationship plan for success.
Devitalized Couples have the lowest levels of satisfaction and struggle in almost every area of their relationship. The goal for these couples is to acquire help learning skills in all the areas that are stressful, frustrating and energy draining. Areas that are usually stressful and out of balance are: finances, sex, communication, family and children, conflict resolution, and role responsibilities.
Communication and conflict resolution skills can be learned, but commitment to your relationship and love for your partner are prerequisites for the journey to transformation. Relationships are a journey and a process. They require tending to like your house, automobile, and physical health. All relationships start out fabulous, but the road to success or bliss is full of potholes and speed bumps. Knowing you will encounter these often uncomfortable developments and understanding them can help strengthen both resolve and ability to remain connected, loving, and in love.
Couple-to-Couple Coaching Intensive
is a 20-hour relationship training journey that primarily takes place on Saturday and Sunday from 9am-7pm. Weekday appointments are also available.
Traditional therapy can take great lengths of time and most people want quicker results. Why the long days? Some relationship issues take hours to resolve, no one leaves with unresolved issues.
To register, or for personal assistance contact:
Melvin or Sherrie at 310-248-2733
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